The Scariest Evil

We all enjoy a totally evil person in our entertainment. Well-written evil people are memorable. And they’re fun. Great literature, films and TV shows are filled with their twisted sense of joy in harming the innocent. The best of them are unique in their malevolence. In “Star Wars”, Lord Darth Vader had coarse breathing as he Force Choked his way into our popular culture. The Wicked Witch of the West had a laugh not easily forgotten in the movie “The Wizard of Oz”. And “A Christmas Carol” had Ebenezer Scrooge’s famous “Bah! Humbug!” enter into our language. But, as much as we enjoy the bad guy’s over the top behavior; we also enjoy a happy ending. And so we cheer for the hero as the villain is finally defeated.

But what if our encounter with evil is not in entertainment, but in reality. In our personal life. This is the scariest evil of them all. A human being who isn’t just cruel, but purely evil. And worst, you can't escape easily because this person may be a neighbor, family member or boss.

Recently, I had my first and hopefully only encounter with someone evil. I thought I was being harsh until a few other people out of the blue mentioned how evil this individual was to them and others. They told me of their personal horror stories. And then, I came upon a blog with an article which perfectly described this individual.

I created a True or False Quiz based on the article’s description of evil people.

1.  Aware of doing evil, but actively chooses to ignore it.

2.  Obsessed with maintaining their self image of perfection through self deception.

3.  Very selective about whom they inflict their evil upon.

4.  Going to great lengths to maintain an image of respectability and normality with everyone else.

5.  Well liked by the majority.

6.  Targets come across as overly sensitive, having a persecution complex, or being crazy.

7.  Place themselves in positions of power, or moral superiority.

8.  Not feel remorseful about their actions.

9.  Well aware of the fact that they are hurting people, and enjoys it.

10. Enjoyment in exercising power over others.

11. Must do exactly what they want at all times or face their anger and hatred.

12. Preyed on people who were vulnerable and trusting.

13. Enjoyed very much making their victims look like the ones with the problem.

14. Attempted to turn some of his victims’ friends against them.

15. Cannot stand to lose.

16. Cannot tolerate any injury to their inflated egos.

I received many suggestions from people on how to best deal with this person. They included hiring a lawyer, white light protection, crystals and old fashioned prayer. Something worked because now I finally have my own happy ending and I am free of this very unpleasant individual.

Anyway, why waste a horrible experience? I’ve decided to turn a negative into a positive. It inspired me to write a short story based on a realistic evil person and the unfortunate new guardian angel assigned to protect her. “Satan's Guardian Angel” is only 99 cents.

The article that I based my quiz was written by Jonathan Timar.

Outsmarting Deranged Killers, Ax Murderers, Psychos, Stalkers, the Neighborhood Loner and Other Misanthropes

These people are very dangerous. Sociopathic. Sadistic. Homicidal. Be cautious. You cannot rationalize with someone who doesn’t have a rational mind. You have to stay smart. For example, if you have been able to fight the person off and he or she is unconscious laying on the ground next to you, then don’t sit down and weep. Of course, this will allow time for the misanthrope to awaken and kill you. Instead, run for help.

Listen to your instincts. If there have been a rash of neighborhood killings in the last few weeks and that creepy guy who moved next door a few weeks ago wants to ask you out, don’t go. If he really likes you, try to make yourself unappealing in some way. Stop bathing, dig your nose when he is around, be loud, whiny and annoying. Do whatever you can so that he is repulsed by you. Hopefully, he’ll move on to someone who doesn’t smell like a gym locker.

Try to never be alone with a homicidal misanthrope for obvious reasons. Hopefully, you don’t live in a house that is ten miles from the closest neighbor. If you do, make sure you have something other than just a landline phone. Misanthropes always cut the telephone wires leaving you without a method to call for help. Buy a few well-trained guard dogs. Also, make sure to have a security service that constantly monitors your house. Don’t forget to post signs everywhere about your security.

As you can see, the best way to outsmart a misanthrope is to take protective steps beforehand. You never want to be in a helpless position.

More helpful advice in How to Survive the Movie Plot 

How to Be Happy? Part 3 of 3

 
"Twilight Zone" episode called "All The Time in the World". It's about a man who would be happy just to read books, but is stopped by obstacles in his life.

Everyone has a different idea about what would bring happiness in his or her life. Determine what would make you happy and write a list. As long as it's not hurting anyone else, write it down. Then try to do it.

Have large goals that can be broken down into steps. Do them one at a time.  Also, have small goals you can do daily. Something that will make you laugh or at least smile.

People and circumstances will create obstacles. Jump over them! Each day, do something that makes you happy. Watch a favorite show or do something special just for you. Slow down if only for 15 minutes to take in life - smell the roses as they say. After all, life goes by quickly and you don't want to miss it.

Try to find fun or happiness in activities that you normally do. For instance, if you hate filing at work,  then listen to your favorite music while you're doing it. Lose yourself in the melody. Or give yourself a reward for completing a difficult task.

 Don't forget to enjoy the company of your friends and family. And help others by lifting them up so they are happy, also.You'll feel great helping people. No excuses. Start today.

The Reasons Why It's Difficult to Find Happiness Part 2 of 3

My favorite unhappy person is Henry Bemis, played by Burgess Meredith in the "Twilight Zone" episode called "All The Time in the World". It's about a man who would be happy just to read books, but is stopped by obstacles in his life. I love to read books, but have little free time. I can relate to him.
 

My belief is that many people are unhappy because they are living their lives the way others want instead of how they want. Perhaps they are trying to meet societal expectations or trying to fulfill a role that they never completely agreed with from the beginning.

A famous example of this was the marriage between Prince Charles and Diana Spencer. Rather than marry the woman he loved, Prince Charles "settled" for a woman to whom his parents and society preferred. And that marriage ended in disaster! Choosing to live a life solely for others can be a huge mistake.

I have repeatedly heard people say there is no such thing as being able to have fun at work; otherwise it wouldn't be work. What a horrible attitude! No wonder so many people hate their jobs.

There are probably bosses and supervisors who are trying to meet this misguided expectation by making sure that the employees are miserable. They believe that if people have fun, then they won't be productive. I would think a happy employee would have lower absenteeism, more loyalty and productivity. There really is no reason why work can’t be a pleasant place.

Fortunately, I’ve worked in places where I was happy because the boss did not believe work couldn’t be enjoyable. I laughed throughout the day along with my coworkers and boss and would be sad to go home in the evening because it meant the fun would stop. And everyone was very productive.

A person can carefully make all the right choices and still end up in a bad situation. Illness, a loss or some other hardship can enter a life. Too often, obstacles get in between happiness and a person.

Then, people try to escape from their unhappiness through alcohol, food, shopping or drugs which only makes the problem worst.

I notice that miserable people want others to be miserable, too. Have you ever witnessed this behavior in a boss or supervisor? I've seen supervisors purposely pick on employees to the detriment of the work place's productivity.

And people like to complain to each other about everything. If a person has no complaints to talk about, there is a possibility that this individual could be considered anti-social. Or strange.






Next: How to Be Happy
 

What Is Happiness? My meanderings in 3 parts - Part 1

The answer is found by defining what causes misery. When there is a gap between what a person wants to do from what that person is actually doing, then there is going to be unhappiness. The larger the gap, then the more misery exists.

Happiness is really knowing what is desired in life, and then living it. Not easy when compromises are repeatedly made. Working in a job that's hated, a partner who becomes Mr. or Mrs. Hyde, poor health, financial problems and a zillion other obstacles.

Then, there is that thing that happens if a goal is finally met and the gap is closed. Circumstances change. For the worst. And a person is moved unwillingly back to the start. A recreated gap. And unhappiness is back.

to be continued